Women security in INDIA : Whom to blame

Women of India.. Is this a question?.. No the question is "are they really safe", and the answer is "no".."hell, no"

In the past few days, there were so many dismaying incidents, that India has came across. All those incident didn't just raised the question on women security but also proved that, we have failed badly, to keep the women of our society secured and to make them feel safe.

Whenever we talk about countries, every country claims one most important thing to prove themselves superior than others.

Japan claims their excellence in technology, Germany claims superiority in weapons and arms, America claims being most powerful country but when it comes to India, India is a country, who always claimed to have most ancient culture and traditions. We are not just proud but also over-obsessed of our sanskiriti. Even when somebody is asking about the development and GDP growth of India (as competing with others), we start chanting the chapters of our culture and sanskriti, it proves how much we care about our culture and tradition (and also proves that we do not have any proper answer for our development and growth, in competition, so we choose our "culture" as our shield, because that is the best excuse we have since ages).

But the question still stands there, what does this traditions and culture have taught us? Molesting a women publicly? or watching a women being molested by group of people in a busy steet of Gurgaon? Is this the culture, that taught us touching a women body without her consent to paint her on holi and saying bura na mano holi hai? 

The answer is NO, this is not our culture, that we feel proud about. Our culture has taught us to respect women and respect her choice. The majority class of India belongs to Hindu religion. The religion where laxmi is goddess of wealth, saraswati is goddess of knowledge, kali is the goddess who exist to kill the cruel, in short, women have given a very high status not just in mythologies but also in teachings of our elders. According to ramayana, ravan was the villain who kidnapped sita, but he didn't ever touched her, because he wished to win her heart not just her body (though by evil methods). He never ever touched sita without her consent. (Ravana portrayed as an evil but he was a MAN).

The reality is pretty different than our sky high air-castles, reality is that a medical student got raped in a running bus in the national capital on 16th December and thrown out of bus after getting brutally beaten up. The rapist got arrested within 2 days, public protested in huge amount in front of rashtrapati bhavan, but the protesters were welcomed with water canons on cold day of 22nd December (Hail democracy). Girls in the protesters were beaten up with laathis, pushed and thrown apart as if they were asking for nuclear weapon, not the justice.

Public outrage was clearly seen in newspapers, magazines, online social networks and internet blogs. Government took steps as per their protocol, suspending two-three police officers, convincing people to take necessary steps, reading out their diplomatic speeches written on a paper, in front of media (and asking if the shot was ok, THEEK HAI? ), offering compensation amount to parents of the girl who got raped (i couldn't ever understand how they figure out this amount), naming an over-bridge on her name and so on...

As the time passed by, people started getting busy in their schedules and start saying "Kuch nahi hona is dekh ka".

Still the question was there and even more firm, are we able enough to keep women of our society safe and walk freely on the streets. Answer was same as before: NO.

April 18, a FIVE YEAR OLD girl was raped and half murdered in the national capital, DELHI. Yes, the Damini case wasn't the end of story, it was the warning bell. It was very disturbing and dismaying to know that a 5 year old kid was raped, candles and hair oil bottle was found inside her genital parts. Outrage burst on streets, newspapers, special journo columns, social media and blogs. Rapist got arrested and I am sure, the same old story of how government convince people that "they will take necessary action (what else they can do.. or say for now?)".

The question was still there and will remain there. The another question that arises here, is that, is government responsible for all these acts? Thought, they are here to protect us, but how will they protect a girl living in a house from the evil living in the same house?

It is not merely the issue that government failed to protect us, issue is that, why there is a need of protecting women of society from the man living in same society?

The reason that women of our society doesn't feel safe on streets is because she is afraid of none other but the men living in her own society. It was not just the government, but also us, the society members, who proved failed to protect the women.

We never know, how many more Manoj, Pradeep and Ram singh, are still living among us. But why the men has to become an evil like that. (Though, evil is a very benign word to use here)

The question is in front of us and solution is there, in our mind. We cannot blame government of each and every thing (seriously, no point of doing that). The women will be secured and safe, only when men will promise to behave themselves. 

The men of society has to be like a MAN, they should start treating women the way she wants. They have to take the responsibility to protect the women, even if he cant protect all, but he can at least promise to not to attack one. 

Not just for a random women, even for your wife, you should respect her. 

Even if she is your wife, do not force her for anything and respect her choice. She is not just a sex machine, whom you adore in nights and treat like a slave in mornings. 

Men has to understand that women are not just a piece of furniture, or a machine to give birth to child (one after another), she is not a piece of flesh to gain physical pleasure from.

Only we. the society, can make women of our society feel safe, so that she can at least walk freely outside and live with dignity inside their home.

Stop blaming government and BE A MAN.